5 Ways To Keep Calm And Carry On (Wedding Planning)

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They walk among us. Search carefully and you may even find one hiding in your own inner circle, biding their time, waiting for the perfect moment to strike– that smiling friend with their shining engagement ring who, by day, bustles from tasting to tasting aglow with that new-fiancé sparkle, but by night runs rampant, unhinging their jaw to screech into the speakers of an overworked Siri. Their well-manicured claws tear at the air in search of fine china and hors d’oeuvres as bridesmaids and groomsmen scatter underfoot. They know this beast cannot be appeased; they know it is far too late. 

Yes. We have all known (and have come to fear) the bride-/groom- zilla wrapped in the throes of wedding planning.

But now you’re turning into one too. You thought that the curse had skipped you, thought that your fresh face and array of highlighter pens could save you. But that same face is now covered with stress acne weeks before your special day; your highlighters all have dried up and rolled away. Your wedding is fast approaching and everything is going wrong, wrong wrong. Wrong! You fear a transformation may be close at hand…

Good thing GayWeddings is here to help. We know that the number one cause of groom-or-bride-zilla-itis is stress. You’ve got a lot of people to please, so it’s only natural that you’d want everything to be perfect (and that you’d get upset when it isn’t). Luckily for all involved, our bestie WeddingWire always comes through with the good advice. Their entire SomethingBlue campaign is full of great advice to help you keep calm and carry on. Some of our favorite bits of advice?

1. Make a Promise

Make a pledge to yourself and those around you not to get too overwhelmed. This means being completely and totally honest with yourself when you’re beginning to feel stressed, and then taking a step back and reevaluating the situation. And remember, whether it’s your nit-picking parents or the color of the cake that has you feeling like a castle under siege, don’t panic. Instead, find a way to express your emotions in a clear and honest way. You’ll find that it really comes in handy when the ring bearer accidentally sets your tux on fire.


2. Take a Quick Vacay

You know what they say: When the going gets tough, the tough get going… to the beach, to the spa or even to the garden in your own backyard. It’s OK to take a break from time to time and treat yourself to something special. Even taking a mental vacation and spending some time with a good book can make a world of difference.


3. Choose the Right Wedding Planner

When we ask our Real Weddings couples how their awesome weddings came to be, nine times out of ten they spend the majority of time giving kudos to their wedding planner. And these talented professionals certainly deserve it! From finding the right vendors to fixing wardrobe malfunctions mere moments before the big walk, these folks are the personal fairy godmothers to your burgeoning fairytale. Of course, handing the reigns over can be a bit scary for those who love being in control. But that’s just another reason why communication is key.


4. Have a Backup for the Backup

Things go wrong. Groomsmen disappear. Bakeries suddenly and inexplicably go out of business only after cashing your cake check. And as for your dress? Well, now might not be the best time to get into that. As some wise yet irritating old person in our lives used to tell us, things happen. All we can do is plan ahead and come prepared with backup after the backup for the backup.  It’s easier to put out a fire when you’ve already got the water on hand.


5. Remember: It’s All About You

Your wedding is supposed to be a celebration of the love that you and your special someone share for one another. In other words, it’s all about you (and them)! And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise (if they try to, lovingly remind them exactly whose initials have been hand embroidered onto roughly 53 peony-pink tablecloths. Promise it’s not theirs.)

But because it’s all about you, that also means that it’s your responsibility to take care of yourself! No crash diets, no over-scheduling and please remember to get some sleep.


You now have someone you can snuggle with literally all the time; why would you possibly want to give that up?