“All-Terrain” Wedding Fashion
On that Big Day, dapperQ will bet dollars to donuts you are going to march down the aisle, sign your soul away, dance your feet off, and cry tears that heal wounds you never knew you had.
Jennifer and Jessica Moon covered all those bases when they wed this past August in Concord, Massachusetts. But, overachievers that they are, the Moons added canoeing, glass breaking, and a sprint. So what did they wear, for goodness sake, and what can you learn to suit up for your own wedding?
First a little background. The newlyweds met four years ago at a mixer sponsored by JP Morgan and Out Professionals. Jessica had only 15 minutes to “cruise” but in that time she met Jennifer, told her she had “nice energy” and got her digits. The rest is history. (Tell your single friends not to fret. It only takes one and even a 15-minute window may be enough to in which to discover her.)
The couple decided to wed at Old Manse, a National Historic Landmark, where Emerson, Hawthorne, and Thoreau spawned a revolution in American philosophy known as the Transcendental Movement.
For their all-terrain wedding, the brides paddled in on canoe and were met at the riverbank by Jennifer’s parents and Jessica’s mother. They wed under a Jewish chuppah, built to include a fishing rod that belonged to Jessica’s father who is buried just a mile from the site.
Tweaking Jewish tradition in which a groom walks around his bride seven times, Jessica walked around Jennifer three times, Jennifer walked around Jessica three times and they circled once together. The couple joined together to break a wedding glass on Writer’s Rock (where Thoreau and Emerson were known to pen their thoughts) and then broke in to a run up the aisle and toward their reception.
dapperQ: So how did the ceremony and location inform your fashion choices?
Jennifer: The idea of a long train was not something that would make our canoe trip super easy. And while we had an aisle of sorts, it was on the grass so we both opted for flats. I wore satin ballet flats by Freed of London.
Jessica: Our choice to wear flat shoes connected us to the land and to each other. I also knew I would wear flats because I wanted to dance and have as much fun as possible.
dapperQ: Jessica, let’s start with those gorgeous spectator shoes.
Jessica: I love fashion so I started thinking about my outfit a year in advance. I went through several iterations including purple suede and rhinestone Manolo Blahnik heels that were beautiful but I went with those Ferragamo spectators.
dapperQ: And your dress?
Well, I knew I didn’t want to spend a lot. I also knew that I wanted to be able to wear it again and that it had to be short because it would be more fun to dance in. I chose a cream-colored, silk dress with a halter-top and the suggestion of a cummerbund.
I cobbled together the rest of the elements including a black silk slip by Missoni. My sheer black hosiery with the line up the back was Falke, a German brand that makes the most amazing hosiery. In fact, it’s all I wear now.
dapperQ: Jennifer, how about you?
I didn’t want to spend a lot, either. It’s just not where I wanted to prioritize my funds. But I wanted it to be special and the vintage element was attractive to me. The October before we married, I found that Housing Works Thrift Store on 23rd Street was having a bridal event. The sale was very organized, including a printed brochure of all the dresses donated from various designers with prices ranging from $60 to $1,500.
It was interesting to not work with a professional, but a volunteer who believes in Housing Works mission. There was camaraderie between us because she wasn’t trying to sell me something. The third dress she brought out had a train and since I knew we were coming in on canoe, we didn’t think it would work.
That’s until she noticed that the train was detachable! At $60, the price made it risk free. If nothing else, it was donation to Housing Works. After alterations, it was several hundred more but still a great investment.
dapperQ: Tell me about the alteration process.
I worked with Andra Gabrielle who had to undertake a really intensive process that included re-beading. It was so meticulous, so gentle, so honest.
dapperQ: What about your headpiece?
It was made by Ellen Christine who is a visionary. She took pieces of tulle from the train and put it in my headpiece along with some of the beading. It really brought the outfit together and I wore it all night long.
TakeAways for Action Brides
The outfit you wear will live forever in photos. But as the Moons reminded me, it has also got to accommodate whatever the richest day of your life brings. Cheap heels that blister? Fuggedabout it. Pants too tight? No way. Select your outfit the way you want to start your marriage – thoughtfully aligned with most joyous intention.
Photos by Prinos Photography
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