He Does: David Ross Wants All That and a Wedding, Too!

David RossDavid Ross has marriage on his mind.

The former member of ’90s pop sensation Bad Boys Inc., Ross is all grown up, all Out, and all about getting his new movie, “I Do,” produced and showing at a theater near you.

With the help of Kickstarter, Ross is working day and night to fund his film, a look at the importance of legal marriage.

Naturally, I was curious if Ross had spent time thinking of his own nuptials (he’s single, folks!), and the answer is a resounding: he does.

“I’d like to do the proper thing,” he says, with an English accent that could be telling you to piss off and you’d still be flattered. “I want the house with stairs, coming down on Christmas Day with the family, a fire, and a dog.”

While there are weddings in “I Do,” Ross isn’t giving out details, so I prodded him into divulging some touches he’d like for his own ceremony — pre-holiday and -family bliss.

“I’m somewhat classic, sorry to say. I’m into tuxes and roses and something outside. I see lots of green and white.”

Ross doesn’t want a religious ceremony, and would have a friend be the minister. He also has restrictions on the nature aspect. “I don’t see it on the beach because I hate sand. And I’m not sure about a country house because I don’t want to be eaten alive by animals.”

While showing up dead for his own wedding would most certainly put a damper on the festivities, Ross has his guests concerns in mind. “The guests need to be very comfortable,” he says. “I hate it when people can’t even afford to attend your wedding.”

Cordiality extends to all aspects of the affair, and Ross, after hemming and hawing, thinks a formal, cocktail reception is most appropriate. “Any excuse for people to dress up is nice. It’s never good when you get stuck at a table, so I’d like a little afternoon soiree, where people can chill out afterwards.” He’d also like a Champagne Fountain “with real Champagne glasses; not flutes.”

He also doesn’t want the stuffy to take over. “Everything has to be classic and beautiful. No plastic. But if someone falls over and breaks something it’s no big deal.”

Even though “I Do” deals with the importance of legal gay marriage, Ross says he would walk down the aisle without the license. “When all is said and done, marriage is about coming together in front of the people you love. I would do it without the paperwork, and then we’d fight tooth and nail to get our rights.”

Compromise is essential in marriage, but Ross does have one restriction for his wedding. “No Bad Boys Inc. songs, no remixes of Bad Boys Inc. songs, and no Mash-Ups of Bad Boys Inc. songs.”

Something tells me that’s not going to be a dealbreaker for his future groom.

Photograph: Billy Pollina.


David Toussaint is the author of the Gay Couple's Guide to Wedding Planning, Gay and Lesbian Weddings: Planning the Perfect Same-Sex Ceremony, and TOUSSAINT!.