A lesbian reader from Florida recently asked GayWeddings.com if she and her partner could legally get married in D.C. Ahhhh, such a tricky question!
I’ve been known to say that same-sex couples are putting marriage back into weddings. And, that’s because of the host of issues that gay and lesbian couples historically have had to consider when choosing to get hitched.
Not only ago, we had no access to partnership recognition. But with the recent advancement of marriage equality, we have had the opportunity to celebrate our unions however we so choose. In backyards, in churches, on mountain tops. In courtrooms, in parks, and on the steps of city hall.
In all cases, we don’t just start by planning a party (although our unions do tend to be fabulous, heartfelt celebrations that represent many milestones), but instead we have to consider carefully what our legal opportunities are, where those opportunities are, and what they mean to each of us as an individual couple.
With us, the marriage consideration comes first; the wedding second.
Wedding innovator Kathryn Hamm (@madebykathryn) is co-author of The New Art of Capturing Love: The Essential Guide to Lesbian & Gay Wedding Photography (Amphoto Books, 2014), an Education Expert for WeddingWire and Publisher of GayWeddings.com