California Brewery Engagement: Kaycee & Amanda
April 16, 2016
Kaycee & Amanda went to elementary school together. Amanda even signed Kaycee’s yearbook and listed her as one of her “Best Friends” in 5th Grade. They played fast-pitch softball together and Amanda’s dad coached them, before her family moved away when the girls were 12. They rekindled their friendship via Facebook during college, and after graduation met up in L.A. after a taping of “The Tonight Show with Jay Leno,” where Kaycee was working at the time. After countless hours spent on airplanes and Facetime, Amanda moved to L.A.
One Saturday afternoon, Amanda and Kaycee made plans to meet a few friends at a brewery to watch the Gators play. The brewery had a rotating tap list and used chalkboard magnet signs to display the ever-changing available beers. Their routine was to go inside and check the tap list before ordering. So, earlier in the week, Kaycee arranged with the brewery’s management to have one of the tap boards read, “Amanda, Will You Marry Me?” Her plan was to follow Amanda inside and wait until she read it, then get down on one knee. She alerted friends that were meeting them about the plan so they could discretely follow them inside and take pictures and video. The plan went off, mostly, as planned and of course, Amanda said yes!
The brides returned to the brewery for their engagement session. They appreciated that their photographer let them dictate the style and feel of the photos. He was a good listener and took time to get to know them as a couple, offering expert opinion when needed but respecting their input. He eased the natural awkwardness about the shoot and just let them interact – or interacted with them when necessary to get the most natural shots.
Kaycee is enjoying keeping their planning organized and checking things off of her many “To Do Before I Do” lists. The sheer amount that needs to be done still takes Kaycee by surprise (no matter how many times people told her to expect it). Amanda enjoyed the beer and food tasting the most! She has found managing other people’s expectation the most challenging, though. As a people-pleaser, it has been hard to step back from what she thinks other people feel or want and just let the decision be solely up to her and to Kaycee and what they want.
Kaycee’s advice to other couples would be, “Don’t get caught up worrying about what you’re ‘supposed’ to do or in people telling you what is ‘expected.’ This applies to everything from how long you’re engaged before the wedding to what you’re going to wear…Just do you.”
Amanda’s advice for same-sex couples specifically is that “It’s always nice to find vendors who either are LGBT or outwardly LGBT-friendly. It made it a lot easier for us to not have to go through that awkward, ‘Oh my fiancée is a woman’ conversation with every new vendor and wonder whether or not they were going to be supportive.”