Real Wedding: Adi & Michael
Adi & Michael
October 2, 2011
By Denise Oliveira
Adi and Michael’s priority for their wedding on October 2, 2011 was to make it a personal, meaningful and intimate affair for their 80 guests. From the prayers they chose for the ceremony to the favors they hand made, they were able to unite their American Christian and Indian Zoroastrian backgrounds seamlessly.
The two men met in graduate school at the University of North Carolina in Chapel Hill. They now live in Chicago, where Adi works as a research scientist at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine, and Michael works as a speech language pathologist at All Bright Therapies. They got married in the chapel at Northwestern University, and held their reception at a restaurant in Evanston, IL.
After Michael proposed to Adi on their two-year anniversary, Adi took the lead on planning the wedding. “I really enjoy dealing with logistics and details,” Adi said. “But Michael got to have input, too.” Their main wish was to blend their cultural and religious traditions, and their second priority was for the wedding to be simple yet elegant. “We wanted no frills,” Adi said. They chose dark purple as their color because of “the richness and elegance it brings out.” For their attendants they chose Adi’s brother as his Best Man, and Michael’s friend Heather as the Best Maid of Honor. They particularly enjoyed picking out their invitations and other stationary. They found Havilah Savage on Etsy, and “she was so wonderful to work with,” Adi said.
When the day finally arrived, they each walked down the aisle with their respective parents. Michael completely surprised Adi by bursting into tears as he did so. “I’m usually the sappy, emotional partner,” Adi said.
During the ceremony, Michael’s father led a Christian prayer he had written himself, which he recited as the grooms stood in a circle with their parents. “That was my favorite moment in the entire wedding,” Michael said. “Even though my parents have always been supportive, that’s a moment when you realize how thankful you are,” he said. Adi’s parents, who had flown from India for the wedding, then led a Zoroastrian blessing.
They kicked off the reception by dancing to Jason Marz’s song “Lucky,” because the lyrics rang so true for them. “We’d talked about the first dance for months,” Adi said. “That song is about how lucky you are to be in love with your best friend.” With an open bar and a four-course meal, the dancing went on until midnight. A friend of theirs helped MC the night, and the music was taken care of with their iPod.
Michael’s father surprised the grooms with an intricate slideshow, showing childhood pictures of Adi and Michael side by side at the various stages of their lives. Michael surprised everyone with his hand-made cake topper. He personally carved the two tuxedo men out of a mold and covered them with a glossy paint. As guests departed, they each received a lovely, ornate Indian box, filled with tea bags. The grooms had personally filled each bag with their favorite loose-leaf teas. “It was literally a labor of love,” Adi said.
Ceremony Venue: Alice Millar Chapel & Religious Center :: Reception Venue: Stained Glass Restaurant :: Photography: Dawn Roscoe Photography :: Floral Designer: FlowersFlowers :: Cake Designer: Amy Beck Cake Design LLC :: Attire: Formallyl Modern Tuxedo
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About The Writer
Denise Oliveira is a journalist in love with love stories. She is the co-founder of Prequels, where she interviews engaged couples to create wedding invitations and favors that incorporate their love story. She has a master’s degree in journalism from Columbia University in New York City and believes that sharing personal stories is a powerful way to create and deepen relationships. She blogs for Huffington Post Weddings and can be reached via email (firstname.lastname@example.org), Twitter or Facebook.
Denise Oliveira is a Brooklyn-based writer. She has a master's degree in journalism from Columbia University in New York City and is the founder of Prequels, where she interviews engaged couples to create wedding invitations and favors that incorporate their love story.