Alabama Spring Wedding: Aryn and Racquel
Aryn and Racquel enjoyed a beautiful spring wedding day at the Sonnet House in Leeds, Alabama, near Birmingham. The couple met by chance through a network of friends who didn’t even know at first that they were gay.
When they discovered that Aryn was lesbian, they commenced trying to set her up, choosing the “wild and untamable” Racquel (a.k.a. Rocky). The couple moved in together within three months, and despite many obstacles, grew together until ultimately, Racquel proposed.
The day of the proposal, Racquel offered to grill steaks. She built a fire and set up a picnic inside (it was December!). The two spent hours just talking, until finally Racquel asked, “Are you sure I’m who you want? Do you have any doubts at all?” Aryn answered that she had no doubts. Racquel asked Aryn to spend forever with her, and revealed a ring she had hidden behind her back all night.
When considering her inspiration for her wedding day, Aryn spent a lot of time thinking of things that Racquel would enjoy. She wanted it to be a southern wedding with hints of both Alabama and Texas, incorporating both family histories. Aryn worked with her mom on their photo booth, which was an old barn door covered with quilts made by Aryn’s grandmothers, along with props she found on Etsy.
Aryn and Racquel danced first to the Etta James version of “At Last”, a song Aryn gave to Rocky on Valentine’s Day and that played in the background during their proposal. Their favorite moment of the day was when Racquel looked at Aryn and said, “we’re married!”
The couple’s best advice for brides who are planning their weddings now is to take a deep breath and not sweat the details. “You’ve got to keep your dream wedding in mind with an eye on reality. Also, buy a lot of champagne! It was a huge hit.”
To same-sex couples, Aryn suggests telling vendors up front about the special nature of your wedding. She confesses that it can be scary to do so, but it keeps you from wasting your time with closed-minded providers. “Working with gay, or gay-friendly vendors was the very best,” said Aryn. “Also, go for the wedding that fits you as a couple. Don’t let anyone else dictate what your wedding should or should not be.” Although Aryn and Racquel took criticism for having a “traditional-looking” wedding, neither would change a thing. As Aryn says, “it turned out perfectly for us.”