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Clarissa and Bethany’s Connecticut Farm Reception


July 12, 2014

This is your friendly reminder to always keep up with your friends. One, because it’s just a genuinely nice thing to do, and you should probably get better at staying on top of that anyway. Two, because you never know who will introduce you to the love of your life.

After all, Bethany and Clarissa first met through a mutual friend. But that was back in college, where the two sparked a friendship, but never exactly became close. No, it wasn’t until their post-grad years that the two were brought together for good, this time by another mutual friend (ironically, also named Bethany). The rest, as they say, is history.

The Proposal 

Bethany and Clarissa were in a long-distance relationship at the time. Bethany had been planning to propose on a train bridge by the Grand River, but this was back in 2013, when rampant rains caused the Grand Rapids area to flood constantly. Clarissa was making the two-hour commute back to Bethany’s while her soon-to-be fiancée wandered the town trying to figure out another place to propose. But it’d been raining for days, and she had few options. And thus, when Clarissa arrived, Bethany pulled up soon after in her pjs and, using the ring she wore constantly (the two had been looking into rings at the time, but hadn’t decided on a style yet), proposed. Well, tried to—Bethany dropped the ring in the process. But Clarissa said yes!

Planning the wedding itself was a bit hectic. The two had moved to North Carolina for grad school, but were planning a Connecticut wedding…with a reception for friends and family in Michigan. This was held at Devonwood Farms (the owners were good friends with Bethany’s sister), but although the venue had hosted many other large events, this was the farm’s first wedding. It was a cheaper, but definitely required a lot more planning on the couple’s part. The whole experience was a whirlwind!

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The wedding colors were yellow and gray, and Bethany’s mother made the paper bouquets with Clarissa and her own mother’s help after being inspired by Pinterest. All told, hundreds of hours were put into the bouquets alone, but the flowers lasted both events and the couple still has them to this very day.

They were much more relaxed on their wedding day than on the day of the reception. The reception was simply much bigger, and there were many small details the two still needed to coordinate. Plus, it was supposed to rain that day, but this time a large tent assured that everyone stayed dry. For both events, Clarissa wore the wedding dress her aunt had worn 15 years before, while Bethany wore a necklace lent to her by Clarissa’s mother.

The food was Clarissa’s favorite part. Their caterer, Marie Catrib’s, supplied the couple and their guests with fish and tofu tacos, along with pies and cheesecake for dessert. Clarissa is a vegetarian and Bethany is a pescatarian, and so the two wanted to assure that everyone’s dietary needs could be met. There were plenty of gluten-free, vegan and vegetarian options at their reception. To this day, Clarissa’s dad still raves about all of the amazing food!

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Photographer: Arrae Photography // Caterer: Mary Catrib’s // Reception Venue: Devonwood Farms

Submitted via Two Bright Lights

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