Denver Clock Tower Wedding: Tom & Marc
October 10, 2015
Tom and Marc met at a nightclub around 14 years ago. Both had stopped at two clubs that night prior to their fateful meeting. Tom had only one more stop in him before giving up on the club scene that night. He walked in and noticed a couple sitting at the bar in deep conversation. He sat near the couple that turned out to be Marc and a friend having a drink. Marc describes Tom’s entrance as “Gary Cooper pushing the saloon doors open,” (almost). Their conversation began with junk food and Marc’s dog’s soul. Must have been the right combination because they decided to have dinner the following week and the rest is history.
The truly remarkable part of their meeting they discovered a few days later. That night Tom had been to the same three clubs in the same order only minutes behind Marc, and they are not even close in proximity. Tom truly believes they were meant to meet that night. In his words, “God had sent us on the same path that night and I can imagine God saying to himself, ‘Marc, slow down!’ or ‘Tom, hurry up!’”
Tom and Marc decided to get married last year and agreed on their anniversary date as the date for the ceremony. They agreed that each would propose to the other some time before the date.
On June 24, 2015, Marc received a call from his mother while he was at work. The Supreme Court had just passed the marriage equality ruling. Marc instantly texted Tom the monumental news: “We won! Supreme Court overturned ban on gay marriage!” followed by an emoticon of a smiley face blowing a kiss.
Three seconds later, Tom texted Marc the only thought he had in his head, “Will you marry me?” Marc recalls, “I didn’t have to wait a full three seconds more before I received Marc’s reply, ‘Ohhhh! Yes!’”
Marc wanted his proposal to Tom to be special and memorable. “Something short of a flash mob,” with their families included in the moment. He secretly sent a message to their parents and siblings explaining that he was going to ask Tom to marry him and needed their help. He asked each to call his cell phone and leave a short message explaining why Tom should say “yes” to his proposal. He then recorded a compilation of all their replies on a CD.
On Sunday, Aug. 9, they went for a bike ride to one of their favorite spots, a picnic bench flanked by a golf course on one side and a creek complete with a waterfall and a bridge on the other. They shared a picnic lunch and a bottle of wine and then Marc kneeled down and popped the question. However, before Tom answered he told him that he had to wait and give his answer when they returned home.
When they arrived, Marc took Tom to their room and played the CD for him. They both sat there holding hands and getting a little emotional and . . . finally, Marc proposed one last time and Tom said “yes!” Well, actually he said, “Can I get back to you?” and followed it up with, “Of course I will.”
The grooms wanted a small, intimate ceremony in a location that was elegant and meaningful. The clock tower was the perfect venue for the couple and their 12 guests. It stood as a symbol of their lives in Denver and needed very little décor to complement its architectural beauty.
Family made the day particularly special for Tom and Marc. They had their sisters, brothers and parents with them from both coasts. Everyone gave meaningful speeches and shared lots of laughs. Seeing their families bond so quickly and effortlessly made it a wonderful day.
Wedding photos of their parents and grandparents were displayed next to their guestbook, completing the connection between their pasts and future. Love filled every corner of every room and every heart.
Tom and Marc acknowledge that everyone is different and not every family will be as embracing and wonderful as theirs are, but would offer this advice to couples planning their weddings: “Take your time and enjoy the planning process with your partner. Once it becomes a chore or painful, stop what you’re doing. This is supposed to be special and wonderful. Included everyone who shares your love. It means a lot to many others; probably more than you know.