Eclectic Autumn Wedding: Todd & Joe
Oct. 18, 2015
Todd and Joe met at a local bar in Charleston, South Carolina. Todd was meeting close friends and Joe was bartending. They met again the following weekend at a mutual friend’s performance. They sat next to each other and gave each other side-glances, but tried not to be too obvious. They then planned their first date to see the movie Like Crazy and ever since they have been together.
Todd proposed to Joe. It was a lovely morning and he couldn’t wait to propose to him. Todd spent the night prior trying to memorize his proposal, and as soon as he got off of work, he went to go pick up his tux only to find that they were closed that morning. Not feeling too discouraged, he drove to the flower shop and got his flowers (9 roses mean together forever, 3 mean I Love You, red for love and romance and white for marriage and a new start).
By the time he got home he was so nervous and his heart was beating a mile a minute. He crawled in bed and woke Joe up and started with the beginning part of his proposal. Joe’s initial response was “What’s wrong with you? You’re being awfully sweet this morning.” He could only remember half of what he originally wrote, but as Todd’s love poured out, Joe knew. Todd pulled the flowers out and popped the question.
More than one friend referred Todd and Joe to their venue. As soon as they toured the hall, they knew they had to have the wedding there. The venue is rustic, modern in a historic setting, masculine, plenty of space, nature, and all the amenities you could ever need for a wedding.
They started planning their autumn wedding during the summer of 2014. At the time it wasn’t legal for them to get married in South Carolina, and thinking it wouldn’t be legalized for another five to 10 years, they just figured they would have a ceremony in the meantime. Little did they know that gay marriage would be legalized the following November. They ran to the courthouse on Nov. 19—the day it became legal—and applied. The very next day they were legally married in a cemetery at a nearby Unitarian church – just the two of them, and a notary. They didn’t have the ceremony, however, until Oct. 18, 2015.
Todd and Joe got dressed and ready together before the ceremony. They’re not superstitious, so that moment was captured in the photography and was very special to them. They also greeted their guests before the ceremony, which helped to take the edge off. Their families and their dogs walked them down the aisle during their procession.
Instead of a candle lighting ceremony, they did a tree planting ceremony. It was fitting given the location and the nature surrounding the venue. They have now planted the tree in their front yard in Johns Island, South Carolina.
Unfortunately, Joe’s grandmother passed away a few years ago. A very touching moment was when Snowy Egrets, her favorite birds, flew over the couple while they were saying their vows.
Todd’s favorite part of the day was when their two drag queen friends performed at the reception. Their performances were phenomenal.
If they could offer advice, Todd and Joe would recommend hiring a videographer. As a friend told them, photographs do a great job of capturing an exact moment, but there is nothing like a video of the ceremony and reception to help you relive all of the emotions of the event. Also, start planning and saving early, and don’t let Pinterest keep you up all night.