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Fabulous Palm Springs Estate Wedding: Stefan & Arnaud

Randy + Ashley

Oct. 18, 2014

Arnaud moved from Denver to Munich in May 2006, and signed up for an online dating site where he and Stefan met. They spent the time chatting and exploring each other’s interests before meeting in person. It turned out they only lived two subway stops apart!

One New Year’s Eve, the couple was in Palm Springs, ready to head out to dinner, when Stefan decided to ask Arnaud to marry him. It was so spontaneous that he didn’t even have a ring. Arnaud still said yes.

The grooms always had a connection with the mid-century and old Hollywood charm of Palm Springs and spent a lot of weekends there. They love the town and wanted to share it with their friends from all over the world. They didn’t like the idea of getting married in a hotel and preferred something intimate and private. They found the former estate of Henry Mancini, which was not only exclusive, but perfectly tied in with their work in the entertainment industry. They played some of Mancini’s most famous movie scores as guests arrived, and staged a summer party that could have happened back in the day when the “who’s who” in Hollywood hung out in Palm Springs. It was perfect.

Randy + Ashley

Stefan and Arnaud’s planning experience was organized and smooth. They had a very clear idea of what they wanted the weekend to be like. They even had an extensive PowerPoint document that detailed everything that was going to happen during the day of, when and with whom. Their friends laughed at that idea but weren’t surprised. They had the presentation in place before they hired a wedding planner who more or less turned into a wedding “executioner.”

Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley

The guest list was most important to Stefan and Arnaud. They limited it to 40 of their closest friends from all over. They have together lived in France, Germany, the UAE and the US. Their friends came from those places and from even further away. They wanted to make the day special for them as well, so they focused on a lot of details, from a personalized wedding magazine which included stories about the couple, each guest, and the menu – all in English, German and French – to French and Eurpean inspired food and beverage, to a preppy old Hollywood dress code (that confused everyone, but they nailed it anyway). There were even drag queen versions of Beyonce and Liza Minelli singing “Put a Ring On It.” The day was less of a traditional wedding, but more of a very stylish garden party with the closest people in their lives.

Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley

Stefan’s advice to other couples is to “stop stressing the night before and enjoy. Not everything will work out perfectly, but as the day will fly by, don’t waste time getting bothered.”

Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley

He would also add, “We were very lucky with all our vendors. If I had to give one advice it would be to make sure that the photographer knows how to photograph LGBT couples…especially during the formals, most poses that work for straight couples, just don’t seem to work for LGBT.”

Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley
Randy + Ashley

Their LGBTQ-Friendly Vendors

Photographer: Randy + Ashley  // Shoes:  Alexander McQueen // Floral Designer:  Artisan // Event Planner: ARTISAN EVENTS FLORAL DECOR // Caterer:  Bottega Louie // Professional:  Brian P. Wanzek Productions // Tuxedo and Mens Attire:  Burberry // Event Planner:  Chic Productions // PR Rep:  DDA PR // Tuxedo and Mens Attire: Lanvin // Culinary: Le Vallauris // Apparel: Maison Martin Margiela // Other Location:  McLean Company Rentals // Tuxedo and Mens Attire: Paul & Joe // Tuxedo and Mens Attire:  Paul Smith // Shoes: Paul Smith // Equipment Rentals: Signature Party Rentals // Tuxedo and Mens Attire: The Kooples // Jewelry:  Tiffany & Co 

Submitted via Two Bright Lights

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