New York Beach Wedding: David & Bruce
July 12, 2014
David and Bruce met totally by chance 20 years ago in Chicago. They were both in town on business and staying at the same hotel – the Chicago Hilton on Michigan Avenue. David was living in Minnesota at the time and Bruce was living in Missouri. They met in the hotel gym, started talking and it turned out they knew some of the same people in New York City, where Bruce used to live. They went out on a dinner date the next night, and the rest is history. According to David, “it was really love at first sight.”
David and Bruce never originally plan to get married. They often talked about how they didn’t really need a piece of paper to validate their deep love for each other. Once the federal government started granting serious benefits to married same-sex couples, they decided it was time. The couple was sitting around one night and one suggested to the other that they get married and a mutual decision was made.
Fire Island Pines in New York is special to David and Bruce. They always spend a few weeks there each summer and had often said it would be a great place to get married. They were actually at Fire Island Pines in 2011 on the day when same-sex marriage became legal in New York.
Hiring a Wedding Planner
The wedding was small – just 24 guests – but the couple still hired a wedding planner and were so glad they did. The wedding experience could have been stressful, but Rhen, their planner from NYC, helped craft an elegant but casual day and handled all of the details.
The location was the most special and memorable for both grooms, but the day was full of meaning. Bruce is a BIG Gladys Knight fan, and the couple chose several of her songs for their ceremony. David’s Best Woman, Maggie, created the design for the cake, and the cake artist created it perfectly. Maggie also took care of many of the little details, including creating gift bags for all of the guests that included handmade chocolates from Vermont.
Bruce recalled one of his favorite moments of the day, saying “15 minutes before the wedding ceremony, we met with our minister and the Best Man and Best Woman to sign the wedding certificate, and as the minister signed the document David just broke down and cried. Looking at that document, it suddenly hit him that this was now legal. It was very emotional.”
Advice for Other Same-Sex Couples David and Bruce highly recommend hiring a wedding planner if possible. They searched for a planner and vendors who had previous experience working with same-sex weddings. Not all were LGBT vendors, but they were all 100% supportive of same-sex weddings and had the track record to prove it. And to all couples, they absolutely recommend to remember to have fun on the wedding day!
Their LGBTQ-Friendly Vendors
Photographer: Levi Stolove Photography // Event Planner: 14 Stories // Cake Designer: Cake Alchemy //Caterer: Cocktail Caterers // Ceremony Location: Fire Island, The Pines // Officiant: Rev. Dr. Ruby Wilson // Band: The Elements/ / Ring Designer: Tiffany & Co. //
Submitted via Two Bright Lights