North Carolina Beach House Wedding: Liz & Donita
March 29, 2015
Liz & Donita met through mutual friends at City Beverage, a local bar in Durham. About a year after they initially met, they went back to the same spot for their first date!
The two had discussed getting engaged, and decided hat whoever proposed first would propose – it didn’t matter as long as they were together. Donita, however, had a ring and a plan.
They rode their bikes, one morning, down the American Tobacco Trail for brunch. Stopping for a photo, Donita pulled out the ring and proposed. When they arrived at brunch, their closest friends, invited by Donita, joined them in celebration.
When they were first engaged, North Carolina did not recognize legal same-sex marriage. Donita and Liz wanted their ceremony to be legal, so they originally decided to find a beach house on Bethany Beach in Delaware. While on a trip to Italy, they received the news that the 4th Circuit Court in Virginia effectively legalized their right to marry in North Carolina. They immediately changed their venue to their home state. They found a beautiful home in Kill Devil Hills in the Outer Banks where their friends and family could all stay.
The ceremony was on the beach, and the ultimate venue made the ceremony intimate, the celebration amazing, and everything “awesomely perfect”!
Liz and Donita created all of their own décor, flowers, and music. They chose a close friend who is an amazing chef, to cater the event and another close friend to officiate. The brides trusted their friends to take care of some of the important stuff, so the planning was easy and (mostly) stress free.
Friends and family went above and beyond to make their day wonderful. Each bride had four “bridespeople”. Along with family, they raked the beach and removed thorns from the boardwalk. They cleaned and ran errands and did anything they could think of to make the day exceed expectations
Liz and Donita shared the following: “Our advice to any couple would be to make a plan based on the wedding you want, based on how you want to celebrate your love and marriage. They day will fly by, so it’s important to give yourself extra time. We had a couple hours after hair and makeup before getting dressed that we were able to spend with our parents and bridespeople. It was relaxing, and really special to be able to have that time and to let the anticipation build a bit!”
“Specifically for same-sex couples: make your own rules, and don’t feel bad about tossing out wedding traditions you don’t like, or making up your own new ones! Think about what’s most important to you about the wedding and the marriage, and let that guide your planning!”