Palm Springs Elopement: Darryn and Zach
July 17, 2016
Darryn and Zach met at a birthday party when each was with his previous boyfriend. It was innocuous, but they left an impression on each other. Years later, Zach saw Darryn on a dating app and tried to send a message. Darryn didn’t see the lost message and didn’t respond, so Zach tried again.
The second time, Darryn saw it and immediately responded. They chatted for a while, ending with an exchange of numbers and a “talk to you later.” Zach promptly sent a text that read “How about sooner rather than later?” They went on a date, and a week later, Darryn brought Zach the weirdest flower he could find. The rest is history.
Zach proposed to Darryn. Their first date was on July 17, so they try to do something special every 17th (often including slow-dancing in the kitchen). Zach made reservations at a restaurant they had been talking about trying for quite a while. He coordinated with their very close friends and had them break into their house, rearrange the furniture, string up some patio light, put out a flower (the weirdest one Zach could find) and create a dance floor in the dining room.
When they returned home from dinner, Zach made a plausible excuse and dashed into the house ahead of Darryn. By the time Darryn parked and made his way up the back stairwell, Zach was waiting with a flower at the door, music playing. He asked Darryn to dance. Darryn became instantly suspicious when he noticed the rearranged furniture. They danced and as they finished, Zach asked him to marry him. Darryn didn’t hesitate to say “yes!”
Darryn and Zach are really “casual dudes” who wanted a small ceremony with two main ingredients: warmth and sun. They wanted an elopement with a long wedding weekend with their friends. With only six guests, it was pretty easy to find an amazing place. They were married in a private courtyard, complete with fountain, right there in their own little oasis from world.
Not being planners, the grooms found the process torturous. Luckily, they are so madly in love that they made it through “without killing each other.” They found amazing people to help them. Still, they said that the “best part of planning was…the end of it!”
Their favorite wedding day memory is their vows. Neither wrote any down, but both practiced and thought through them for weeks. They took pride in the fact that both managed to get the words out, but both also cried “like man-babies.”
Darryn and Zach recommend that other couples remember that the day is about them, not about the 400 people who think they should be invited. They continued, “When you want to have a party, regardless of how small, a certain amount of planning and stress is inevitable, but it’s still possible to feel like it’s about you and the promise of a life together.”