Real Wedding: Rob & Doug
Doug Peck & Rob Lindley
June 20, 2011
Rob & Doug had already planned to celebrate their union when, three weeks before their wedding date, Illinois passed its civil unions law. “We happened to be having lunch across the street from the court, so we just walked over and picked up a license,” Rob said.
On June 20, 2011, they tied the knot before 220 guests in Chicago’s Salvage One, an antique store/salvage yard. They chose the venue because it was completely open to hosting a same-sex couple, and also because its warehouse atmosphere and outdoor patio made it the perfect setting for their cabaret-style wedding reception.
Rob and Doug met in the theater scene. Rob, an actor and singer, was part of a group that needed a piano player, and Doug showed up for the job. In fact, the two men had met a few years earlier. Rob had thought Doug was cute, but too young – he was still in college. But this time, they became friends, and then a couple. They also collaborated artistically, partnering for an award-winning production of the musical “Candide.”
Some of Chicago’s greatest singers performed at their wedding, and all the guests sang the final chorus from Candide. It was Doug who orchestrated much of the night’s performances. “We were told we could have charged $250 for tickets to our wedding,” Rob said.
Yet the wedding was much more than a performance. It was deeply personal and meaningful to Rob and Doug. They included the traditional Jewish Chuppah and glass breaking ceremony, and had a single wedding party including close friends from college and other chapters of their lives. Rob’s dad, who hadn’t been 100% on board with their union, not only attended the wedding, but he got down and partied to Lady Gaga.
Rob was responsible for a lot of the aesthetic of the wedding, and he even went shopping for the ladies’ dresses. “The clerk kept wanting to know who was the bride!” he said. “We definitely didn’t go the normal route. But we found great dresses.” He told the men to get whatever grey-colored suits they wanted. The grooms surprised themselves by going the traditional route and wearing tuxes. “We were at Macy’s and we saw the tuxes and loved them, so we bought them,” they explained.
“The main thing was that we wanted it to be a lot of fun, and it was,” Doug said. They had been so diligent with their planning, that 10 days before the wedding everything was set, labeled and packed into their car. “I spent those last 10 days getting massages and relaxing,” Doug said. “When our friends came into town, we were able to have stress-free time.”
Reception Venue: Salvage One :: Cake: Cafe Selmarie :: Photography: Arielle Doneson Photography :: Caterer: Bespoke Cusine :: Floral Design: Keith Eric Davis Designs :: Heirlooms & extras: Cuff-Daddy :: Jewelry: Tiffany & Co :: Tuxedos & Men’s Attire: Hugo Boss, Tommy Hilfiger, Thomas Pink.
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About The Writer
Denise Oliveira is a journalist in love with love stories. She is the co-founder of Prequels, where she interviews engaged couples to create wedding invitations and favors that incorporate their love story. She has a master’s degree in journalism from Columbia University in New York City and believes that sharing personal stories is a powerful way to create and deepen relationships. She blogs for Huffington Post Weddings and can be reached via email (email@example.com), Twitter or Facebook.
Denise Oliveira is a Brooklyn-based writer. She has a master's degree in journalism from Columbia University in New York City and is the founder of Prequels, where she interviews engaged couples to create wedding invitations and favors that incorporate their love story.