San Francisco Grooms: Inder & Ken
Ken & Inder were married on Aug. 8, 2013 by none other than Kamala Harris, the California Attorney General. Ms. Harris was a long-time friend of the couple, and when the Supreme Court issued its Prop 8 decision, the grooms were quick to make official their 12 year relationship. They were married at San Francisco City Hall, with a reception following at Greens Restaurant.
“It was a long journey, but was worth every moment to feel how incredible and magical it was to say, ‘We are married now’,” Ken said. Both grooms have been active participants in the journey toward marriage equality, as well as in the LGBT adoption movement. Their two children – an 8 year old son and a 7 year old daughter – were in the spotlight throughout their wedding day.
These two San Francisco grooms met online and the connection was instant. Their first date was at a dessert spot in the Castro called Sweet Inspiration. After the date, Ken immediately called a friend: “This is it, it might be the one,” he said. Inder had felt the same way.
Over the years, they have found themselves to be a perfect match. Ken is a high-level executive with AT&T, and has a very busy routine. Inder, a dermatologist, tries his best to remain very organized. The balance works out. “This makes our life together organized, but fun at the same time,” Ken said. “We are a perfect match, and knowing that full marriage equality is more than just a word, and is open for gay and lesbian couples gives us a real feeling of joy and respect,” he added.
As their wedding photos show, the day was a masterful combination of elegance and simplicity. From the simple cake and floral arrangements to the beautifully displayed food, the focus remained at all times on family, union, and joy.
Denise Oliveira is a Brooklyn-based writer. She has a master's degree in journalism from Columbia University in New York City and is the founder of Prequels, where she interviews engaged couples to create wedding invitations and favors that incorporate their love story.