Wisconsin Barn: Todd & Ravi
Ravi & Todd
May 25, 2014
Ravi & Todd were married at Over The Vines, a barn and vineyard venue in the beautiful countryside in Wisconsin. “We wanted to do a mash up of our cultures and since I grew up on a farm we did the wedding in an antique red barn and since Ravi is of Indian heritage we decorated the grounds with Indian accents and let our bright Indian garb bring the rest of the color,” said Todd. They had about 200 guests, some of whom even choreographed an Indian dance to surprise the grooms.
In the Hindu tradition, fire is a witness to the union, so they had a special lantern lit at the time of the ceremony, and they have kept it in their home now, to pass on to future generations. Ravi’s parents also brought silver wedding cups to drink from, as well as rose paste to wash their faces the day of the ceremony. Todd shared this about the planning process and his favorite details: “We wanted the wedding to be a reflection of us as a couple. The nice part about gay weddings is that there is no cookie cutter model we have to follow. We added details to reflect both of us. There were cow shaped cookies and camel shaped cookies (with henna frosting design–compliments of Sweet Fusion). We had a dessert buffet from our favorite bakery (Batch Bakehouse) and we did an after party at a local Irish pub. Instead of a 4 day Indian wedding we picked and chose the parts important to us and did it all in one day. It was very meaningful to have our parents walk with us part of the way down the aisle.”
The grooms met over seven years ago when they ran into each other at a local bar. They exchanged numbers, set up a movie date, and the rest is history. Todd shared this about their engagement: “We were talking about our relationship and how it was important to us to have the same rights as married couples, we looked at each other with knowing smiles and both suggested marriage at the same time. It came from a place of love and understanding. Though there was no formal proposal it felt right and filled my heart with warmth.” The grooms had a lovely idea which might inspire engaged couples out there: Immediately after the ceremony they snuck off and had 10 minutes by themselves to share a glass of champagne. “That was a really nice touch to a day that could have been more hectic,” Todd said.
Denise Oliveira is a Brooklyn-based writer. She has a master's degree in journalism from Columbia University in New York City and is the founder of Prequels, where she interviews engaged couples to create wedding invitations and favors that incorporate their love story.