Up Do, Down Do: What Do I Do When I Say ‘I Do’?

Wedding Hairstyles Considered

I’m sure that there are lesbians out there who are gifted in hair management and able to do much more with their hair than I am.

I know how to blow dry my hair, put it in a ponytail, or, for variety, clip it back with a barette. But that’s just about the extent of it.

And, you boys out there, you may just need a little hair wax or styling gel and you are good to go.

Either way, it’s important to take a minute out to make sure that you’ve got a wedding hairstyle plan for your Big Day. After all, people will be staring at you for most of the event and the last thing you’ll want to look at in your photos is a memento of a Bad Hair Day.

I proudly admit that my partner and I got ready for our wedding (showers, make up & all) in thirty minutes flat. Yes, we went with a “natural” look, which is just about the only look we know. We did have one tense moment when we realized that I needed to find hairspray to ensure that my hair stayed up in the special clip I had found and learned how to use (with a twist!) for our wedding day.

Will it surprise you to know that we called all of our lesbian friends, none of whom had any hairspray with them, but finally found some when we reached our bisexual friend. Classic, I think. (I’m sure my Very Dallas Mom, Gretchen, would have had some, but she was busy trying to get ready since her semi-final croquet match from our pre-wedding tournament had run late.)

For those of you who are like me and just don’t know what to do about your hair but feel that it’s worth considering, here are some suggestions:

* Take a look at this blog, HairStyles Watch, to look for ideas. You can also look through Hollywood magazines or wedding magazines for ideas.

* Talk with the person who cuts your hair. Start several months out to grow your hair to suit a particular hairstyle or do a practice run with a cut to time it so that the length is just right on your day.

* Find someone who specializes in “wedding hair styling.” You know they’re out there! Make sure you make an appointment with them in advance of your wedding so you’re not surprised with the ‘do they present you with on your Big Day and you have no time to make a change.

You boys out there may find that items 1 and 2 are most helpful for you, but I’m sure that you would be disappointed to ask a stylist for help and end up with a Caeser when what you asked for was something closer to a George Clooney from 2006 — not 1996.

You know how it is with weddings… it’s the time we spend a year focused on forethought rather than foreplay. So plan now and avoid the Bad Hair Day when it matters most!

Wedding innovator Kathryn Hamm (@madebykathryn) is co-author of The New Art of Capturing Love: The Essential Guide to Lesbian & Gay Wedding Photography (Amphoto Books, 2014), an Education Expert for WeddingWire and Publisher of GayWeddings.com