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Kate & Jess

Jess and I first met, through my friend Joyce, when we were all in high school. At the time, she lived in Vermont, and I lived in Massachusetts. The summer before my senior year in high school, Joyce and I went to Vermont and stayed with Jess and her family for a week or so. I had met Jess a few times before that, and we always got along great. Joyce and I went home, and I kept in touch with Jess via e-mail and instant messaging.

Well, about a month after we came home I found out that Jess had a crush on me. I was beside myself! I was seventeen, and a chick liked me. Well, to make a long story short, I wasn’t interested. I told Jess I liked boys, and we kind of just stopped talking.

My senior year in high school, my current BFF, Kristine, and Joyce and I were thick as thieves. Then we all went to college. Kristine and I, went to Framingham State, and Joyce went to

Western New England College. We kind of lost touch with Joyce a little, and we’d only see each other around the holidays. I met Jess again the weekend after Thanksgiving 2007. She moved to Massachusetts and was with Joyce when we met up with her at a local bar. I almost passed out when Joyce was like, “Kate, you remember my cousin Jess, right?”

Well, the rest is history. The next day, I couldn’t stop thinking about Jess. I wanted to talk to her, to see her, and I had no idea why. Then I started to realize that I had a thing for her. I was completely confused by the whole thing. Jess is a lesbian. She’s known for years. I, on the other hand, have never even dated a girl before! So, I thought I was crazy. I decided I’d have to see her again to know for sure.

I invited her to hang out at my house the following weekend, and as soon as I saw her I knew I was done! We hung out one more time before I decided I needed to say something to her. So, basically, I cooked up a plan so that I could hang out with her alone. (I used Christmas shopping for Kristine!) I was with her for hours, and I couldn’t get up the nerve to say anything. It was a Monday night, and we both had to work in the morning, but I didn’t want to leave before I said something to her. I had already decided I was going to let her know what I was feeling, and there was no way I was going to miss my chance!

Finally, around midnight, I did it. Now, this is a little embarrassing. I told Jess I was “ridiculously attracted” to her. Yeah. I actually said that! She didn’t say a word for what seemed like an eternity. I had never been so nervous in my life! That turned out to be an incredible

night, though. We stayed up and talked all night. It took her a while to work up the courage, but when she kissed me I melted! It was, by far, the best first kiss I have ever experienced, and I know, for certain, it will be my last first kiss. Neither one of us went to work the next day. We slept a little, and talked some more. Basically, we just wanted to put off reality for at least another few hours. Neither one of us knew what to expect from that point forward.

Everything worked out for the best, though. For some reason, I was incredibly comfortable with the whole lesbian thing. When we went out, I had no issue with the PDA’s. When we met people, I introduced Jess as my girlfriend without hesitation. I don’t know. It’s kind of strange, I think. I guess I’m just extremely open-minded! People keep wanting to label me. Which I think is a little odd. I’m not entirely sure I’m %100 lesbian, and I don’t know if bisexual is the right term either. I just say I’m free. Very free. I think I just met a person and fell in love. It’s as simple as that.

I am so in love with everything about Jess. Somehow, we always fit perfectly! I’m attracted to her, inside and out, and we get along so well. It doesn’t matter what we’re doing, we always have a great time, and I can’t seem to get enough of her! She moved in with my roommate and I in May 2008. When Jess proposed to me in September, it was the simplest, most perfect proposal I could have imagined. We went for a walk that night, and she sat me down in this quiet little spot in Andover, MA to ask me if I’d marry her. I was beyond surprised! It was Jess’ turn to wait while I was speechless! Of course, I accepted. There is no other person in this world for me. We moved into our own apartment in October.

We plan to get married in October of 2009. We are strongly considering having our ceremony in Vermont, but it is important to both of us to be legally married. So, we may marry in Massachusetts. As of right now, it’s up in the air.

You're the one I want to go through time with. -Jim Croce, Time in a Bottle

Fast Facts

First met: This time? The Claddagh in Lawrence, MA of all places!
First date: We went to see the Golden Compass.
Got engaged: September 9, 2008 in Andover, MA
Ceremony location: Vermont/Massachusetts
Honeymoon destination: Somewhere warm! We're working on it.

In Case You Were Wondering

We're calling our celebration: A Wedding
Our wedding colors: Unknown
We will be wearing: Kate- Dress; Jess- Tux
Who proposed to who: Jess proposed to Kate
Our last name will be: O'Connell (Jess will take my name!)

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