Erin & Brigid: Getting Married…
The first time I met Brigid was the last time I ever questioned what type of person I wanted to be with. She blew me away with her carefree outlook, love for animals and striking beauty. I have always felt she is the perfect dichotomy of strength and femininity. She has taken major blows on the rugby field and loves getting dirty in all these competitive sports but the next minute she displays the most delicate nature and grace.
Having been together since 2002, we have experienced fun and solemn times. Through these experiences, I realize we are always there for each other and was so happy when she asked me to marry her last year.
Brigid was initially nervous about working with wedding vendors, etc for the wedding. She, and admittedly I, were expecting to hear gasps or moments of uncomfortable silence as we called florists, DJs,bakeries, officiants, and other vendors about our wedding.
For the most part there were absolutely no problems. It proved to really be a matter of this: as long as my partner and I were confident and comfortable talking about our bridal plans and the fact that it was two women and no groom, the vendors quickly fell into line. The same went for our guests. The more we talked happily about our upcoming big day the more our co-workers, friends and family became excited and involved. That was the key – being happy and confident. So even when you did run into someone that couldn't process two women walking down the aisle, you still had this massive support group that you created to be proud of you and share your excitement.
Ask your parents 2,3, or 10 times if they want to invite people before you select your venue.
At first the people they wanted to invite were few so we selected a small venue. However, be prepared that the closer the day comes and the more PROUD and CONFIDENT they see you about your upcoming nuptials, they may get the guest list itch and regret not initially inviting people.
Brigid and I had a beautiful day for our wedding! One of the coolest things was during a slow song at the reception. Brigid and I looked around and saw our straight friends slow dancing and the gay couples slow dancing. It was really a peaceful thing to see. We didn't let any 'what if this person doesn't want to see us kiss at the end of the ceremony,' or 'what if he thinks my special message in the program is too much.' We just went for it and expressed ourselves the way we wanted.
It was an amazing experience and we are excited and honored to step into our future together.